Growing Pains

Here lately I’ve been fixated on changes needed to live my best life ever. In the Follow Your Bliss post, I wrote about the challenges some Generation Xers are having coping with the economic demands of today. My remedy was for us to follow our bliss. In the 20th century there was an ongoing battle to expand and redefine who was allowed to have the best of life, i.e. the women’s rights movement, the Civil Rights’ movement. People tired of narrow definitions of who was allowed to have the American Dream. Throughout the 20th century there have been people who championed for everyday people realizing their dreams. Self-help gurus such as Napoleon Hill, Stephen Covey, Norman Vincent Peale, Iyanla Vanzant, Deepak Chopra, and Dennis Kimbro are examples of people who worked/ and are still working to help us redefine what is possible in our lives. In the 90s I believe the spiritual transition to believe you can have your heart’s desire culminated with Oprah’s Change Your Life series.

The growing pain some of us Generation Xers have is making the transition from what I perceive as the 20th century way of thinking in which once we reach adulthood we are a finished product; to the 21st century way of thinking in which we are all works in progress. We have to realize we can’t allow our skill set to become outdated assuming that what we learned in college is all we ever need to know. We have to approach our lives as if it’s a science experiment in which we are constantly researching ways to improve our lives. We, Generation Xers, can successfully navigate these changes if we accept the inevitability of change and stay current.

I hope my thoughts in this post are not too “all over the place”. These are just streams of thought I’ve been mulling over for the past few months. Thanks for reading.

Until next Sunday,

lillieth

Invictus

For several weeks, much of my spiritual reading has been on the power of the subconscious mind and our ability to control it.  I thought today my post would serve as an exemplar of what it means to control your subconscious mind. What greater example than Nelson Mandela! A man who walked out of 27 years in prison with no bitterness, anger or vengeance. His only aim was to continue his steadfast goal to free South Africa from apartheid. Here is the poem Invictus that Nelson Mandela would recite daily.

Invictus

Out of the night that covers me,
Black as the Pit from pole to pole,
I thank whatever gods may be
For my unconquerable soul.

In the fell clutch of circumstance
I have not winced nor cried aloud.
Under the bludgeonings of chance
My head is bloody, but unbowed.

Beyond this place of wrath and tears
Looms but the Horror of the shade,
And yet the menace of the years
Finds, and shall find, me unafraid.

It matters not how strait the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll.
I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul.

William Ernest Henley
 
I think we would all do well to memorize these powerful words to empower our daily lives.
 
until next Sunday,
lillieth

Finding Your Voice

Intuition is the spiritual faculty that does not explain, it simply points the way. – Florence Scoval Schinn

Eating raw foods, Organic Soul Foods, vegetarianism, Christianity, Baptist, teacher, knitting, etc: my lifestyle choices! Lifestyle choices represent what we want our biography to encompass when we become “dust to dust”! It also represents our voice in the world. Follow a script or create our own script for our life is the question that we answer subconsciously or consciously by our lifework. “Scripts” have been written for humanity through cultural expectations, things humans are expected to do as we age, i.e. go to college, get married, have children… The scripts change depending on nationality, religion, race, or gender.  

This week I have had a stream of thoughts about what is significant about creating my own path in life. Why go against the grain? Why not do what society expects? For me the only conclusion I can come too is that creating my own script in life makes my life feel more authentic. I feel as if God created me for a definite purpose, uniquely designed just for me. I feel as if I am listening to the voice of God, and  guided by the will of God. It requires me to have faith in my choices, even when others say differently. Truthfully I find it to be a more interesting, engaging way to live.

Thanks for reading my ramblings this week! 🙂

Until next Sunday,

lillieth

Tears

Keeping with the theme of water I thought I’d share an excerpt from Acts of Faith by Iyanla Vanzant, dated March 21st.

I cry out with my whole heart. -Psalm 119:145

Water purifies. Water nurtures. Water is the healing force of the universe. Water cleanses. Water corrodes. Water refreshes. It is the conduit of growth, protection and maintenance. Crying produces salt water. It purges, protects and expands the spirit. Crying is a release, a cleansing, an expression. However, we must learn to cry with an agenda. Are you crying to release, to purify, to cleanse? Are you angry, frightened, worried or elated? We may cry because of a particular situation, but there is underlying emotion we really need to express. When done properly crying brings clarity and healing to the body and spirit. It can be a refreshing experience, so do it as often as you like. The moment the tears start to flow, just write down your agenda.

– When I cry with an agenda, my needs are met.

This whole post has been an excerpt from Acts of Faith by Iyanla Vanzant.

Until next Sunday,

lillieth

Nia

Kwanzaa is an African American holiday created by Dr. Maulana Karenga in 1966. The week-long holiday is celebrated from December 26th to January 1st. Each day represents a principle that allows community members to reflect on how to improve. Today the principle is Nia, meaning purpose. Nia is the fifth principle of seven. Each year I fancy myself as the “Queen of Kwanzaa”, sending out “Habari Gani?” (What’s the news?  in Swahili) to friends and family alike. They respond with the principle of the day. Some have started to improvise though; and, I have gotten responses that range from thought provoking to comical. The responses highlight this time of year when most people are reflecting on the passing year and planning for the year to come.

2013. I’ve read that the number 13 represents transition. Each new year offers the opportunity to make needed changes in all facets of one’s life. In preparing to write my resolutions I read a variety of motivating books to set my intention for the new year. I’d like to share an affirmation I got from a calendar (I forgot which year) wit you.

“In the new picture of the coming years, I see my life growing and expanding in everything: in health, youth, and unlimited energy at all times and in all circumstances. I see myself in complete freedom. I see unlimited growth in my personal capacity, mental power, and intellectual brilliancy. I see constant improvement in all the elements of my personality and my body. I see daily growth in my wisdom, understanding, insight, and realization. I see myself in peace, harmony, love and joy, and I see my character expanding to be stronger and more beautiful. I see the never-ending betterment of friends, associations, and environments. I see myself in everlasting joy and infinite bliss.”

This affirmation is from The Secret.

I hope this affirmation helps to center you in affirming your life goals for 2013. Happy New Year! May all you hope to be in 2013 happens for you and your family.

Until next Sunday,

lillieth